Making The Most Out Of Your Marriage
Marriage - it’s been with humankind for thousands of years. And
is usually defined as the “legitimate union between husband and
wife”.
Even with the ever-increasing divorce rates, marriage still
remains the preferred method of coexistence between “coupled”
men and women. Even after divorce more people look to get
re-married than not.
But even after having previous marriages people find that there
was still a lot of work to be done to keep their relationship
going strong.
Love is the catalyst that bonds two people together, and for a
couple to truly be happy they must love each other.
The dictionary describes love thus:
1. A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude
toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition
of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness.
2. A feeling of intense desire and attraction toward a person
with whom one is disposed to make a pair; the emotion of sex and
romance.
Of course some may say “we can’t live on love alone”. That is
obviously a true statement. But at least when there’s love,
there’s a fighting chance a couple can make it to a “seasoned
love”, one that has made it through all the struggles of
day-to-day life and has evolved into a marriage that is
everyone’s goal: a marriage where there’s respect, honesty and
openness, friendship and intimacy.
The list above is a very “short list” to be sure. There are
actually all sorts of qualities that may be more, or equally
important to some people.
There are also many conditions to a happy marriage. Some are
even “outside” conditions that must be handled and put in their
proper place, such as extended family and our careers. Others
are internal and close to our hearts and minds: our children,
home, hobbies and interests, and the “biggy” - finances! A
couple can ever find happiness with constant frustrations and
worries over money.
If you define love by the things that are most important to a
relationship, then “love” becomes the most important part of a
marriage. Staying in love over the years becomes something you
have to work very hard for.
Talk to your mate and ask yourselves these questions:
1. Do we respect each other
2. Are we honest and open with each other
3. Are we best friends
4. Are we happy with our intimacy
Once you get your answers you may want to start to get to work
on some of the issues you have discovered.
Start with small baby steps. Take action to make sure your
“house” in order - finances, balance between family, career,
home, hobbies and outside interests.
This is the first page of the recipe for “Making the Most Out Of
Your Marriage”.
Now get started on making your relationship all it can be. It
will be challenging, fun, and very rewarding, we promise.
Remember start with communication, and keep on communicating
no matter how difficult it is. It is the secret.
Joe & Emily Season are experts when it comes to relationships
and marriage. Along with their lifetime of experience working
with their own relationships they have helped many people in
their lives find happiness. Sign up for their free exciting new
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